About Cassandra Kali

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Hey there – I’m Cassandra Kali. I’m a bookworm, a blogger, and a Nerd. I love hot tea, snail mail, fantastic cosplays, and libraries. Also, The Walking Dead has made me consider the possibility of zombies eating me alive every time I’m walking to my car late at night. Anybody else think like that?

I am the daughter of an Alcoholic Heroin Addicted Father and an Alcoholic Convicted Felon Mother.  My family has a long history of substance abuse and dysfunction. I know a lot of you can relate. Thankfully, I know now there is a better way to live and I’m doing it. I’m a grateful member of Al-Anon, a 12 Step Program for people whose lives are affected by the family disease of Alcoholism, and I continue to seek a deeper healing, recovery, and understanding in my life in many different ways.


I have been on a healing journey since July 2010 when my second miscarriage in a row triggered all kinds of “stuff” in me that had been waiting to come to the surface to be healed and I ended up in a deep, dark, and scary emotional pit – I was terrified and I had to make a change. This is when I really dove into the self-help books, counseling, healing modalities, etc. and I did start feeling better. A few years later in February 2014, I became a member of Al-Anon after forcing myself to attend a meeting because I just didn’t know what else to do anymore. At that point, I was emotionally exhausted from years of trying to control the alcoholics in my life and trying to manage the effects that alcoholism had had on me. I broke down and wept at the end of that meeting – it was the beginning of a healing like I couldn’t have imagined.

Let me tell you, I know how hard it is to face your darkness, speak your truth, and begin to live the life you are meant to live. The experience is beyond difficult…but so richly rewarding at the same time. Do you know what it feels like to realize that you really are making your life better? I do. I’m feeling healthier and happier than I ever have (I’ve even made amends to myself) and I want you to know this feeling too!

Disclaimer: I am going to talk a lot about Harry Potter on this blog…just like I do in real life…because I’m trying hard to be real with you guys. Accio Fun Times!


Okay, can I just say how happy I am that you’re here?!? 😍

Stick around for a while and see what resonates with you.  I’m sharing…

  • my personal experience, strength, and hope as an Adult Child of Alcoholics
  • Al-Anon and 12 step work
  • interesting and relevant book reviews (because books are magic)
  • my thoughts on relationships (marriage, parenting, etc.) as you break the family cycles of alcoholism and dysfunction
  • nerdy commentary about alcoholism and Adult Children of Alcoholics from my favorite fandoms (because it’s real for us)😉
Cassandra Kali, Queen of the Andals, the Rhoynar, and the First Men

It’s all coming straight from me to you, new friend – authentic and unabridged. I hope you’ll join in the conversation in the comments and follow me on FacebookTwitter, Instagram, and Pinterest.

Thanks so much for stopping by!

With my Love,