Posted in 12 Steps, Al-Anon, Step Five

Are you keeping these and staying sick?

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Step Five: Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.


Secrets. They can seem so innocent and mysterious. Whether we’re talking about cool spies with “TOP SECRET” information or friends who create “secret societies” with passwords and hideouts, secrets in this connotation can be harmless and cute….fun even!

secrets and friends

But little kids playing games or silly secrets being shared between friends aren’t the type of secrets I’m talking about right now. I’m talking about the destructive type of secrets: the ones that fill us with shame and fear and keep us trapped within our dysfunction. I’m talking about the secrets that make us feel like we have to hide, lie, and cover up pieces of our past and ourselves; the secrets that do nothing but cause harm and havoc in our lives. I’m talking about the secrets that keep us sick.

And what better time to talk about secrets that keep us sick than when we talk about Step Five…

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Posted in 12 Steps, Al-Anon, Step Four

You seriously need to clean out your refrigerator!

Click here to read the introduction to my 12 Step Series and find links to all of my 12 Step posts in one place as they become available. 


Step Four: Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves


Well…that sounds intimidating, doesn’t it? 😨

With words like “fearless” and “searching” and “moral” being tossed around, Step Four can sometimes sound like it’s describing a brave knight in shining armor way more than it’s describing someone like me or you.

knight in shining armor
The brave knight, Sir Al-Anon of Alcoholia, who made a fearless and searching moral inventory

All jokes aside, I know Step Four can sound scary at first but it’s actually very cool. And I’ve got good news for you, friend. If you’ve ever had a refrigerator, you can relate to Step Four. Why? Because Step Four is just cleaning out the fridge. You’ve cleaned out a fridge before, right? If you’ve worked Step 1, Step 2, and Step 3 (and you “get” why you need to clean out your fridge every once in awhile), then you’re completely capable of working this Step. And, when you’re finished, you’re gonna be so glad that you did it!

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Posted in 12 Steps, Al-Anon

Succeeding in Recovery: Working the 12 Steps

 

The 12 Steps are the lifeblood of any 12 Step Program – whether it’s Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-Anon, Adult Children of Alcoholics, Narcotics Anonymous, etc. Personally, I see the 12 Steps as a road map to personal healing and relationships – they show you the specific direction to take to get you where you need to go in recovery.

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Posted in 12 Steps, Al-Anon, Life Lessons, Nature, Recovery

Butterflies deal with shit too – just like us!

This blog is about recovery from the extensive and progressive family diseases of alcoholism and drug addiction. And here’s the truth: recovery is hard. It takes courage, action, patience, vulnerability, and hope to get healthy. It can be a difficult process with no real finish line because recovery is something that you’re always working on. Don’t get discouraged, though! It’s not as bad as it sounds and I’m going to tell you the good part in a minute. But first, a little story… Continue reading “Butterflies deal with shit too – just like us!”