Posted in Adult Children of Alcoholics, Al-Anon, Harry Potter, Self-Love

Rollercoaster of Love

Imagine there is this roller coaster that you have ridden before and you absolutely hate it! It is the scariest, twistiest, loopiest, craziest, whatever. The point is that you cannot stand being on this particular roller coaster. Any time you’ve ever jumped on this thing, you’ve been a complete and utter mess afterwards.

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Posted in Al-Anon, Harry Potter, Recovery, Slogans, Star Trek, The Nerdy Stuff

Giving up the Fantasy and Living Your Life

Okay, I know how funny it seems for me of all people to suggest that anyone give up anything having to do with “fantasy” seeing as I kinda believe deep down in my core that the Wizarding World could be real and my dream job is to join Starfleet as a Science Officer and spend many years boldly going all over the place…

Fear not, friends. I’m not asking you to give up any of that fantasy deliciousness.  Have fun with that stuff all you want! What I’m talking about are the not-so-fantastic fantasies: the expectations we create and hold onto about what our relationships and our families and our careers and our lives and our bodies are supposed to look like. You know what I’m talking about… Continue reading “Giving up the Fantasy and Living Your Life”

Posted in Self-Love, Step Nine

Making Amends to Myself

This is the letter I wrote to myself as part of my Step 9 Amends…

Dear Cassandra,

I am so very proud of you.  You have been brave and vulnerable and strong and weak, all at appropriate times, and this whole process has been beautiful to watch. Thank you. With all of my heart, thank you – for saying “yes,” for taking the journey, for both surrendering and fighting when necessary, and for just being you.

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Posted in Book Reviews

I Love You and I’m Leaving You Anyway by Tracy McMillan

In I Love You and I’m Leaving You Anyway, Tracy McMillan tells the story of her life while strangely and paradoxically telling important aspects of my own story too. It’s like magic! Except it’s not…because like I say in my About Cassandra Kali page, a lot of us who grow up in dysfunctional situations can find all kinds of similarities in our dysfunctional stories from childhood. Continue reading “I Love You and I’m Leaving You Anyway by Tracy McMillan”

Posted in Adult Children of Alcoholics, Book Reviews, Nature

Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail by Cheryl Strayed

Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail is Cheryl Strayed’s personal memoir of her experience hiking the Pacific Crest Trail in the summer of 1995. Cheryl shares with her readers the physical, emotional, logistical, and spiritual challenges she faced while hiking from Mojave, California to the Oregon-Washington border.  Flashbacks throughout the book tell readers about the life situations that ultimately brought Cheryl to the decision to hike the trail.

The term “Adult Child of an Alcoholic” is never used in the book.  However, Cheryl Strayed is definitely a member of the club. Continue reading “Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail by Cheryl Strayed”

Posted in Life Lessons, Star Trek

Guinan says “Give yourself permission to be selfish”

My oldest daughter loves Star Trek (too bad you can’t see my proud, gushy parent moment as I say that). Her favorite episode to watch at 7 years old is Star Trek: The Next Generation, Season 2: Episode 1: “The Child” because one of her favorite characters, Deanna Troi, has a baby and babies are sooooooo adorable, Mom! Needless to say, I’ve watched this episode more than 7 times….a lot. I’ve seen this episode a lot.

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Posted in 12 Steps, Al-Anon, Life Lessons, Nature, Recovery

Butterflies deal with shit too – just like us!

This blog is about recovery from the extensive and progressive family diseases of alcoholism and drug addiction. And here’s the truth: recovery is hard. It takes courage, action, patience, vulnerability, and hope to get healthy. It can be a difficult process with no real finish line because recovery is something that you’re always working on. Don’t get discouraged, though! It’s not as bad as it sounds and I’m going to tell you the good part in a minute. But first, a little story… Continue reading “Butterflies deal with shit too – just like us!”